Thick black hair, chocolate brown eyes, and a warm full smile, Frank was the biggest tease I ever knew. He had exceptional skill in hitting my hot buttons, grabbing my attention, and getting me to look at him. At eighteen years of age, we sat in in the same model motorized wheelchairs in the same classes at Woodrow Wilson Business School, part of the Woodrow Wilson Rehabilitation Center in Fishersville, Virginia. However, I worked hard to keep a distance from him. It was my responsibility, remain focused on the academics. But something happened, something that turned my heart and life upside down: love deeper than friendship.
In class, Frank always completed assignments before most students– and got good grades. He was a nice guy, but I sometimes found his distracting behavior irritating (Is that the right word?). I was going to school to learn the nuts and bolts of accounting, not my favorite subject (but an available program at a wheelchair-accessible school), while Frank appeared to be sailing through to attain credentials–and not worry about a thing.
“Mary?” He called my name from several rows away.
I always responded to Frank the same way, twisting around to give him a dirty look and quickly returning to my attentive position, until our relationship changed.
The first week Frank sat in the back row and I sat in the front. The positions we chose to sit made statements about Frank and me. Frank, a confident student, never worried about a thing (on the exterior). He selected a relaxing place to occupy the classroom. But I claimed the second row from the front (on the end), never missing information–and a chance to get acquainted with the instructor.
By the end of the first week I rolled to class, filled the space I had chosen in the second row, and there was Frank. He pulled in next to my desk.
“Hey, aren’t you lost?” I asked him.
“No, I was just moved here. There’s more room. So you mind?” He smiled.
“Well, I don’t mind, as long as you’re quiet.” I issued to him a sarcastic grin.
The next day was Saturday. No class. I got busy doing homework. A girlfriend asked me to go to the movies–and so did an employee. But I didn’t go. I wanted to keep my nose to the grindstone and, yes, I wanted private time to think about Frank. He was so doggone different.
Sunday came. I went to church, bought a salad, and returned to my room.
Knock. Knock.
It was Frank.
“Oh! Hi. Umm, are you lost?” I asked him, with irony on my face and in my voice.
“No, Mary. I asked around, until I found you. I have something for you. It’s not much, but, well, here it is.”
I opened pink tissue paper and there was a beautiful rhinestone heart pin. I was speechless. I sat still and glared at him. Tears filled my eyes. He leaned forward, wiped my eyes with his fingers and placed those tears on his cheeks. Then he attempted to bend forward to kiss me, but lost his balance and fell on top of my upper torso.
I laughed and giggled and laughed some more. Then I helped him sit up straight.
“There. Are you more comfortable now?” I asked in a warm, tender voice.
“Not really.” Frank looked serious and I saw a tear in his eye.
I couldn’t look at him. I just couldn’t. So I gazed down to the floor and whispered, “Thank you for your h–. I mean the heart. Thank you.”
“Mary, please don’t slap me,” and he kissed me, softly, and passionately, and very long.
When we came up for air both of our faces shined brighter than the sun.
Frank and I both lived to the fullest, dating, and graduated in two years. We returned to our hometowns, wrote letters– up to twenty-five handwritten pages long, and visited every three or four months for years–until he died from terminal stage Muscular Dystrophy.
It was a love deeper than friendship.
You may have someone in your life and a love deeper than friendship. Allow it to turn your life and heart upside down, if only for a season.
Enjoy your blessing.